Comments on: Why I’ll Never Water Myself Down for a Date Again https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/ A Lifestyle Blog Sun, 21 Jan 2024 19:47:32 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.1 By: Kim https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-699948 Fri, 28 Oct 2022 05:16:27 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-699948 This. I’m in my mid-thirties and feel like I’m just now at the point where I truly have an “I am who I am, take it or leave it” attitude.
Cheers to being human!
“Sometimes I’m anxious; yes, it’s true. Sometimes I’m sad. Sometimes, when I’m asked a question, it takes me a while to answer; I’m thinking, okay?”

]]> By: Nina https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-679077 Thu, 08 Oct 2020 17:18:56 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-679077 I am bit older and single, living in a part of the country where people often get married quite young. I am “choosing to be happy single”. I am fine being single. Everyone else seems to have the problem with it. I have learned an important lesson a few times in my life; it is better to be single than with the wrong person.my ex disappointed me by having a 3yrs affair with my cousin,thanks mostly to ”hackingloop6 @ gm ail . c o m” he’s also on WhatsApp + 1 484  540 – 0785,,whom i applied for his hacking service,he hacked and gained me a remote access to his phone activities..The fact is that he have been cheating even before he proposed, Sometimes I get lonely, I remember how I felt when I was with a wrong person. Maybe “Mr. Right” will come along. Maybe he never will, but embracing “choosing to be happy single” has made me more content than I ever was before.

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]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-651131 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 16:44:10 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-651131 Rachel I’m so, so glad this resonated. I hope you’re having a great time with this new person—facing your fears, chasing after what you want, having FUN in the process…all that good stuff.

]]> By: Rachel Szaruta https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650969 Thu, 06 Jun 2019 13:45:05 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650969 THIS. ALL OF THIS! Thank you so, so much for writing this, Jackie! Relating so hard to this, right now…I could swear you’ve been stealing my thoughts!
I always go into panic mode when I don’t hear from a guy for a little while – past experience has proven that they’ve gone off to another woman, or are not interested (but don’t have the balls to actually tell me). I’m currently talking to someone new, and I’m trying my hardest to face my fears, feed my inner fire, and chase after what I want, rather than being defeatest about it!
Every woman should read this article! xx

]]> By: Watering down things, but NEVER myself – Coffee Chalk https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650342 Sun, 19 May 2019 11:32:20 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650342 […] Why I will NEVER water myself down for a date again […]

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650307 Fri, 17 May 2019 17:22:55 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650307 MEREDITH. I hear you and I see you and I congratulate you for doing that work. It takes time and effort and sometimes tears to undo the anxieties and lies that have built up over decades. It’s important, though. I’ve found that I don’t usually realize how impactful that work is in the moment, but weeks or months down the line it hits me how much I’ve changed as a result (case in point: could NOT have written this essay 3 months ago. would not have even been in the head space to recognize half of what I wrote above).

And positive reinforcements? I’ve got them scattered throughout my apartment, too. I think it is good and healthy and if it helps? Hell, we should feel free to tape those reminders up to our heart’s content. Thank you for reading!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650305 Fri, 17 May 2019 17:14:59 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650305 STACY. I’m so glad you could relate. Deleting an ex’s number is a massive deal. It’s not trivial in the slightest. If someone isn’t adding anything to your life anymore (and, in some cases, if they’re negatively impacting it), the best thing to do is let them go. That, and remove any temptation to let them back in (hence, deleting the number and whatnot). It’s hard, but it’s important. Thank you for taking the time to comment!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650304 Fri, 17 May 2019 17:11:35 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650304 Teresa, thank you for commenting! That’s such a tough situation. And while I am in absolutely no position to give relationship advice (are any of us, though? the particulars of relationships in and of themselves are so, so nuanced), I do have a feeling that your ex will have to reach any and all conclusions for himself; he’ll have to make the decision to seek help for himself, too. Breakups are hard. Hope you’re taking care of yourself, in whatever ways you can!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650303 Fri, 17 May 2019 17:04:37 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650303 Oh Erin, your comment is a breath of fresh air. Thank you for writing it! Honestly I think there are a lot of people who didn’t follow society’s generally expected “timeline” for when one should start dating, and how often they should do it. I used to carry a lot of shame over the fact that I didn’t start dating until my late twenties, but now I simply do not care. Whether or not I realized it at the time, those years alone were what I needed then; dating a lot is what I want now.

I’m sorry that guy pulled that 180 on you, but I’m also so glad to hear you came to the same conclusion I ultimately did. Reading the line “Why WOULDN’T anyone want to date me?” made me smile. Damn. Straight.

Here’s to dating on our own timelines, not settling for anyone who doesn’t appreciate us for exactly who were are, and having a hell of a lot of fun in the process, too.

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650302 Fri, 17 May 2019 16:56:53 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650302 Irena—Thank YOU for reading. I so know where you’re coming from; hundreds of what ifs indeed.

These days, I’m getting better at caring less what these men I date think of me. My current answer to the question “What if he doesn’t want me anymore?”: “Cool. Good to know. I’d rather not waste my time with someone who doesn’t want me anyway.”

]]> By: Meredith https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650200 Tue, 14 May 2019 19:03:06 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650200 Oh, girl. I relate to this so much. I’m currently working through some of these anxieties with my therapist, and it is HARD work. I have positive reinforcements posted all over my apartment (“I am enough. I’m not a burden. I’m okay even when everyone else is not okay. My feelings are valid. My heart is worthy of being loved”), but believing them is going to take awhile. Changing behaviors is easy, but lies you and others have been telling yourself your whole life whether they meant harm or not , not so much.

]]> By: Stacy https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650117 Mon, 13 May 2019 16:57:48 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650117 “Me, a person who’s historically had to hold on to everything and everyone who’s ever made me feel anything. ”

I relate to this so so much. Deleting my ex’s number was a HUGE deal, but I had to just act like it wasn’t to actually do it. Anyway, loved this piece.

]]> By: Teresa https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650094 Mon, 13 May 2019 09:38:47 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650094 Oh wow, I needed to read this right now! My ex has serious anxiety issues, whereas I’ve always been confident and aware of my own worth. We recently broke up but I find myself wishing, hoping, praying that he would get that “light bulb moment” and realize what he had in me. Thankfully I haven’t reached out to him about this, but it’s so close so often. This text made me hold back again, though. I can’t make his anxiety go away, and if he’s not getting better there can be no future for us. But I’m still hoping, wishing, praying…

Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

]]> By: Erin Farrugia https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650066 Mon, 13 May 2019 04:45:05 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650066 I’ve never read an article that i’ve connected with so much in my life! It’s like you’ve just explained my dating life up until now!
I too started dating later in life (around 29/30) as I just wasn’t interested in it that much and had some anxieties in my life but it never really bothered me. But around the time I hit 30 I dipped my toe in the dating pool. I had a few nice dates but nothing serious and then recently I met a guy on REDDIT of all places and just like you, we went in hard right from the get-go, chatted every day non-stop for ages, we told each other SO much, and then we met up and had a ‘sleep over’ and from there it was all downhill. He stopped msging and I felt like I was bugging him every time I messaged, it made me feel horrible. In the end we decided to call it quits and even though we didn’t ‘date’ for long my self-worth really took a hit. I felt like I wasn’t good enough for him or anyone. Why would anyone want to date me?
But I thought about that A LOT and then it occurred to me… Why WOULDN’T anyone want to date me?

I’m kind, funny and cute (well I kinda think so anyways)
Why should I change who I am for someone who doesn’t appreciate me for me?
I have been single for a long time and I don’t need a man to make me happy, and I DO love my alone time (hello ambivert over here!) but I’ve decided to be myself and put myself out there again but now I know what I’m looking for in a partner and dating a few people has helped me realise what I want.
I know the right person is out there for us… but till then being single can be LOTS of fun :)))

]]> By: Irena https://witanddelight.com/2019/05/why-ill-never-water-myself-down-for-a-date-again/#comment-650043 Sun, 12 May 2019 20:43:39 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=39487#comment-650043 Wow, amazing! I am in my late twenties and I am afraid of dating for the same reasons you are listing. What if… hundreds of what ifs..!
Thanks for writing it.

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